What a weekend I’ve had! Yesterday was my birthday, and for anyone curious to know, I did in fact turn 21 and no I won’t show you my ID for proof. She’s on holiday.
I’m absolutely exhausted but my cup is overflowing with the love and joy I felt showered in this weekend.
Having chronic illnesses and being disabled means things have to be planned a bit, prepared in advanced and then cling on tightly to the hope that my body won’t throw on the check engine light. Somehow, I pulled off celebrating my birthday across two days with all my loved ones and for once, I’m actually thanking my body for giving me this gift.
Friday night I met with the girls at one of my favourite pub/restaurants from before. The Three Daggers in Edington is a short drive from where Han and I used to live, and I love any opportunity to go back. Han, Laura, Darcy, Kalie and I all met to have some wood-fired pizza, some drinks and a lovely relaxed evening. I even pushed the boat out and had a few gin and elderflower cocktails!
The food was to die for, but the company was what really sold the night. I honestly don’t think I could ever spend too much time with my friends, but to have them all together is a real treat and something I’m incredibly grateful for. We chatted freely about anything and everything, even discussing the proposed in-patient pain clinic I’ve been referred for, and why I try so hard to mask my symptoms when they come up. I can tell these girls anything, and I’m a truly lucky lady to have such incredible support and love. Of course we spoke about plenty else, the highs and lows of raising children, work, family. Everything was on the table and it just felt so good to share the night with them all!
Saturday, my birthday, we had a family bbq planned with my parents, sister and her boyfriend, Marek. Of course I LOVE BBQ food, and I also love being Chief of Fire and Tongs (yes, that is my official title). But to manage it takes a lot of pacing, and a lot of help from Mum too.
We spent the morning, after my usual rest period to get over how yucky I feel in the mornings, slowly working through tasks to make the day ahead relaxed and manageable. I’d do a small task and rest, and repeat until the house was presentable, garden set up, food as prepped as we could get it, and drinks cooling in the fridge.
I’d don’t really do portions when it comes to BBQ food because I want it all, so we had burgers, kebabs, corn, sausages, salad, coleslaw, potato salad. The whole works.
My family arrived and I had some more lovely gifts added to wonderful gifts the girls got me. We got drinks and went and relaxed in the garden for a while, just chatting until I was rested enough to kick the bbq into top gear. Food was cooked, eaten and we settled in to let our food go down with some cards against humanity. For which I probably owe the neighbours an apology, their kids probably had an intense education.
But before we settled down, as I went to go upstairs, I realised there were some visitors at the door. It’s been two weeks since the doorbell told me the batteries were dying and I still haven’t remembered to change them!
Han, Jordon, Ivor and Arlie were on the doorstep with a cake, candles, flowers. They sang me happy birthday, I blew out the candles (that the wind already blew out) and got the best cuddles from Ivor and Arlie! Honestly this was just the icing on the cake for my weekend, and the cake itself was magnificent! It felt like my own little Love Actually scene – “it’s Carol singers!” That they’d take the time to come by with a little song and lots of cuddles just reminded how incredibly lucky I am to have the people I do in my life, and how truly loved I am. Even more so when Ivor sneaks up for a cuddle!
Riley kept popping his head round the door to show everyone his ball, proud little man that he is, and thankfully had been on his best behaviour all day. He decided that he wouldn’t use them as bowling pins to my relief, and saved that for my dad and Marek.
I ended the day with a video call with my brother, his fiancé, Ben and Pat, and my niece and nephew, Fifi and Oscar. That rounded the day off and I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect weekend to see and speak to everyone I love so dearly.
Not to mention all the messages that I’ll have to find the energy to respond to today. So many reached out, shared memes, photos and lovely messages.
This weekend really was a big ol’ middle finger to chronic illness. To have had so much love and fun in two days is unheard of for me, and I really mean it when I say my cup is overflowing with all that love and will keep me going for a long time.
I’m a lucky lady to have so many people who care about me, support me and who helped make this weekend achievable for me. I was pushing my luck trying to do everything on consecutive days, but it paid off.
Riley was on his best behaviour all weekend, no mishaps with the bbq or knocking people over with his enthusiastic welcomes. Just a happy boy , surrounded by people willing to throw his ball and a burger of his own to join in with celebrations.
I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I did writing it. Sometimes the stars align and let me do bigger things like this weekend. It doesn’t always work that way, and I couldn’t have done it without everyone’s support and help, but we did do it and I’m a very happy, grateful, tired lady!
Ps. This weekend ticked off more things from my “Things I want to do in 2026” list. A list generated around no longer waiting to be well to live life. We’re halfway and I’ve made cracking progress!!